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Relational Structure
Pillar 2 of Desire & Dynamics Mapping™. The patterns that run your relationship when no one's looking: attachment, emotional safety, conflict cycles, shutdown, avoidance, and the real work of rupture and repair.
Avoidance in Relationships The Conversation Running Your Love Life
"We're fine. Things are good right now. I don't want to rock the boat." That sentence sounds peaceful. It is often fear wearing nice clothes. In this 12-week series, we have looked at the patterns that make or break relationships: criticism, stonewalling, shame, inconsistency, control, scorekeeping, defensiveness, and resentment. Different behaviors. Same root. Something got avoided until it could not be avoided anymore. That is the uncomfortable truth about avoidance in rela
Dr. Ashley
Oct 55 min read
When Fine Means Hidden Armor Is Killing Intimacy
Explore how 'Killing Intimacy' impacts relationships and discover ways to remove hidden armor. Learn to connect genuinely and stop 'Killing Intimacy'.
Dr. Ashley
Aug 2710 min read
7 Hidden Relationship Patterns We Excuse But Shouldn't
Discover 7 hidden relationship patterns that harm connections. Learn to identify and break these relationship patterns for healthier bonds.
Dr. Ashley
Jun 253 min read
Understanding Emotional Safety and Its Role in Fostering Sexual Desire Beyond Just Chemistry
Explore how emotional safety fosters sexual desire beyond chemistry. Discover its crucial role in deepening connections and reigniting passion.
Dr. Ashley
Jun 85 min read
Understanding Emotional Shutdown in Relationships and How to Navigate It
Discover how to navigate emotional shutdown in relationships. Learn about emotional shutdown, its causes, and strategies to reconnect effectively.
Dr. Ashley
Apr 54 min read
Why High-Achieving Couples Struggle With Emotional Intimacy
Discover why high-achieving couples struggle with emotional intimacy. Learn how to bridge the gap and enhance emotional intimacy today.
Dr. Ashley
Mar 63 min read
Understanding Love Bombing, NRE, and Genuine Alignment
Discover the differences between love bombing and genuine alignment in relationships. Protect your heart by understanding love bombing signs.
Dr. Ashley
Feb 133 min read
Relationship Autonomy Isn't Doing Whatever You Want: Why Boundaries Matter In Every Relationship
Discover why Relationship Autonomy isn't just doing whatever you want. Learn how clear boundaries enhance autonomy in monogamous and non-monogamous relationships.
Dr. Ashley
Feb 103 min read
Understanding Love Bombing in Narcissistic Abuse and How to Protect Yourself Moving Forward
Discover what Love Bombing truly is and how it fits into narcissistic abuse. Learn to protect yourself from Love Bombing's emotional harm.
Dr. Ashley
Jan 264 min read
Navigating Non-Monogamous Relationships: The Impact of Monogamous Values on Challenges
Explore the challenges of non-monogamous relationships and how monogamous values impact them. Learn to navigate non-monogamous relationships effectively.
Dr. Ashley
Oct 14, 20257 min read
The Two Main Ingredients for Successful Relationships: Communication & Sexual Intimacy
Intimate relationships can be likened to a fine wine—complex, occasionally a bit quirky, and sometimes leaving you with a headache the next day. After nearly two decades of working with couples, I've accumulated more insights than a fortune cookie factory about how we connect in these intimate contexts. While each relationship has its own unique character, certain essential elements consistently appear, much like a cat at a dog park, when it comes to creating fulfilling partn
Dr. Ashley
Apr 10, 20256 min read
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